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ProBlogger: How to Make Friends and Influence People at the ProBlogger Event

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ProBlogger: How to Make Friends and Influence People at the ProBlogger Event

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How to Make Friends and Influence People at the ProBlogger Event

Posted: 18 Aug 2014 09:17 AM PDT

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This is a guest contribution by blogger Johanna Castro.

Day one of the ProBlogger conference dawns, and butterflies are probably winging around your stomach as if making a bid for freedom.

For many of us this day has been eagerly anticipated for about 6 months, and it represents one of two days in which you'll meet some of the biggest names in blogging: Presenters, bloggers, media celebrities and a heap of new friends.

But first. You walk in, you register at the front desk, and then you face a sea of people. That sea of people seems to be undulating like a wave mingling effortlessly with yet another wave of people and the worst thing is that they all seem to know each other.

Crikey!

While you, on the other hand, are standing there on your own without a friend in sight.

I know. Because I've been there done that, and at my first ProBlogger event in 2011 I cringed with embarrassment and wondered how I’d dared to bring me and my little blog out into the open to such a huge conference.

After registration I clung to the nearest wall like a boggle-eyed wallflower and actually shook to the souls of my pink suede boots.

Added on to the anxiety of meeting people I had little idea about What to expect at a Problogger training event.

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Be Prepared

Forearmed is forewarned as they say, and since then, and after many brazen 'fake it till you make it' occasions, I've been continually reminding myself that a conference is not just a fabulous place to learn (Problogger Perth), it's also a great way of networking in real life with others from the online world.

So it's a really good idea to be armed with some strategies to put yourself 'out there' in order to meet new friends and influence people.

This year I decided I’d up the ante with my networking, and at my local library I found a book called "How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends" by Don Gabor (Simon & Schuster) which gave me the idea for this post, as well as some prompts for conversation openers. I’d like to reference it because it incorporates a lot of great advice and echoes many of the thoughts I'd been having about making the most of a Problogger event and getting to know as many people as possible.

Help I don't know Anyone!

So you're standing there hoping that your make-up isn't smudged and you haven't got lipstick on your teeth, or as a bloke maybe you're hoping that in this meadow of mostly women you might find a friendly male face.

You look around the room, feel slightly overwhelmed, and don't know where to start.

How to introduce yourself

Relax. Have a walk around. Smile, and look for smiling faces. Also keep an eye out for small groups of people. You might think that these people know each other already and are chatting about old times, but in reality you'll probably find that they've only just met.

Hover close by (keep smiling won't you) and when there's a gap in the conversation, take a deep breath and say: "Hi, I'm … this is my first ProBlogger event. May I join in?"

Tip: Don't leave it too long to introduce yourself in a group situation, because if you do it could make the other people feel uncomfortable.

Better still look out for anyone standing alone. They're probably in the same boat as you and longing to chat with someone, but they don't know who to approach for fear of butting in on a group of friends.

Perhaps you could say, "Hi my name is … I've never been to a ProBlogger event before. Have you?" and if they say "Yes," then follow with something like, "How does this one compare to previous years?"

Getting a conversation going

Keep a look out for bloggers that you've met online. Smile, make eye contact and say something like, "Hi, I'm … and I've been longing to meet you." If they've given a presentation you could add, "That was an awesome presentation you gave and I really related to X or Y comment you made."

Remember that what you say doesn't have to be clever or witty. As long as you come across as smiling and friendly you'll be surprised how willing other people will be to talk to you. They'll also probably be sighing with relief that someone has approached them. A simple, "Hello, my name's …" offered with a smile and a handshake and followed with, "Nice to meet you," should do the trick to get a conversation flowing.

Body Language

Body language is also important. I try not to cross my arms when I'm chatting and even if the conversation veers away from my own interests I think it's important to keep engaged – so I nod and maintain eye contact – because soon you will hit common touch-points or shared interests, and it's important not to have turned the other person off by then due to bad body language.

Influence

Influence begins by being noticed.

To be noticed you need to make new friends and acquaintances. Just as you might comment on other people's blogs in the online world, you need to carve out a 'belonging' in the real life world too.

In time you'll be noticed as 'one of the in-crowd' or 'one of those in the know' and bit by bit you'll become viewed as someone with influence rather than an unknown newbie who needs befriending.

So make a point to meet, introduce yourself and chat to as many new people as you can because these are the relationships which are likely to continue online as well as offline.

It's this connectivity which leads to influence.

And ultimately, influence leads to making money blogging.

Remember people's names.

You'll meet tons of people at ProBlogger and Don Gabor says that five seconds is all the time it takes to make a good first impression. Remembering a person's name makes them feel important and adds warmth to the conversation as well as helping to build rapport.

Author and public speaker Dale Carnegie said, "The sweetest sound in any language is a person's name."

Darren Rowse is very good at names, and I'm sure he employs lots of useful strategies.

5 name remembering tricks

  1. When you've been introduced to someone, try to repeat their name back to them in the conversation.
  2. Focus when you're introduced to people. Don't think about what you're going to say, and don't worry about what people are thinking of you, or if your clothes are ok … just focus.
  3. If someone has an unusual name, mention that it's unusual or unique and ask them to spell it.
  4. Don Gabor suggests trying to use a person's name at the end of your conversation so you'll better remember them next time you meet. "Ronelle, it's been lovely chatting to you. Here's my card, it would be great to keep in touch."
  5. If you've forgotten someone's name, don't fudge over it! Just be honest and say something like, "I do remember you, and we’ve been introduced. But I'm so sorry your name has suddenly escaped me." We're all human after all ;)

Other conversation openers

At coffee or lunch breaks – where the food is likely to be awesome :) you could start with an opening gambit of, "Wow, doesn't the food look fantastic! What would you recommend trying first?"

Or … "Hi, my name's … Isn't this a great event? What's been the best bit of the conference so far for you?"

Most people like being asked for advice or information, so if there's someone you admire then ask them something. "Excuse me. My name's … and I love your blog/I loved your presentation … may I ask you a question?"

Be interested in others – remember people like to talk about themselves. "May I ask you what your blog's about?"

If you're sitting next to someone you don't know then don't just stare ahead. Strike up a conversation. Ask them something like, "Which speaker have you enjoyed most so far?"

Tricks to keep conversations going

  1. In group situations keep your ears open and listen to what other people are talking about, then respond with a positive comment that shows you've been listening. Note: “Negative comments are conversation stoppers,” says Don Gabor.
  2. Don't give unsolicited advice unless you are expressly asked for it. It's always better to ask questions and respond accordingly.
  3. Remember that most people like talking about themselves and bloggers like to talk about blogging.
  4. Have an opinion but don't be overtly opinionated.

Compliments

Sincere compliments make people feel good. Notice something interesting about the person you are talking with, and then weave your compliment into a question which will ease any embarrassment. "You're always dressed so stylishly. I love the dress/shoes/top you're wearing – may I ask where you got them?"

If you're given a compliment then smile and say thank you. Don't dismiss it, belittle it or make light of it in any way.

Mrs Woog (Woogsworld) and Liz Lennon (Life Dreaming) taught me a lesson quite recently on Twitter about receiving compliments gracefully, when inadvertently I'd made light of one.

"I’ve worked with 1000′s of people and one thing I say is ‘just say thanks’ to the gift of compliments," said Liz.

"I learnt years ago from someone who took compliments well. It is grand," added Mrs Woog.

Okay. QED!

And I was grateful for being pulled up on that one.

So … Thank you for reading to the end of my post today :) Any compliments will be received most graciously ;)

I really hope if you're attending ProBlogger Event that you'll use one of the techniques I’ve written about and pop over for a chat with me. I’ll probably nervously be wondering a) if anyone will come and speak to me or b) who I could approach to engage in conversation!

Anyway, it's your conference. Make friends and start influencing people. You deserve it.

Do you have any tips to add for attending a blogging or social media conference?

Jo Castro is freelance writer who also facilitates blogging and writing workshops. She's the founder of two blogs: Lifestyle Fifty, an inspirational blog empowering women to live life to the full as they get older, and ZigaZag a Travel and Leisure blog. A gypsy heart and geologist husband keep her in search of utopia – a tropical beach, a simple shack, and a fridge filled with chilled champagne would do nicely.

 

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